posted Wed, 29 Dec 2004
I saw an interview with Kevin Bacon last week about his role in a new movie about a pedophile. It reminded me of something that happened to a friend of mine, “Elizabeth.”
Elizabeth is pretty, funny, smart, kind, sophisticated, athletic, interesting. She has a master’s degree – spent two years as a Peace Corps volunteer in Zaire where she worked with Belgian medical missionaries to improve drug distribution in her area – speaks fluent French, decent Spanish – has traveled – does 150-mile bike rides for charity.
You get the picture. She’s not someone who has any trouble attracting men. She has no reason to scrape the bottom of the barrel when it comes to men. She has a lot to offer. There is no reason for her to settle for anything less than wonderful.
One day at work, a colleague approached her. He and his wife had a friend, he said. This guy had never been married, was a college graduate, had a job, was studying to be a minister. Would Elizabeth be interested in going out with him?
Well, maybe, Elizabeth answered cautiously.
There’s just one thing, the colleague said. Just one little, tiny thing.
Yes? Elizabeth asked.
The friend was a convicted child molester. But only when he’s under stress! And he was praying about it!
Elizabeth politely declined.
What I want to know is how could that colleague look at Elizabeth and think she would EVER date a child molester? Good grief. No woman would be that desperate, I think, and Elizabeth was not desperate at all and had no need to be desperate. How insulting.
My interpretation is that the colleague was thinking that Elizabeth would be good for his friend rather than thinking about whether the friend would be good for Elizabeth.
I am also curious to know – and yes, I know my church has had many problems with this issue and I am not happy about the way it has been addressed – what church is going to ordain a convicted child molester? I know we are all sinners and the church is a hospital for sinners and not a museum for saints, but still. I don’t think the ministry is an appropriate place for convicted pedophiles.
The end of the line
2 years ago