posted Thu, 17 Feb 2005
I talked with Sophia, the Polish trainer at my gym, today. She’s 28 and studying to take the LSAT. She is quite worried about not doing well on the test as she doesn’t have a good college GPA to make up for a bad test score. And she doesn’t even have a good college with a not-good GPA; she has a fifteenth-rate school with a lousy GPA.
She explained that she had to work three jobs while she was in college because her parents would pay only for her tuition, books, computers and other school-related expenses, but not clothes and makeup.
That’s just so unfair, she told me. It really affected her self esteem that kids laughed at her clothes when she was a kid. She would never let her children go through the same thing.
So when your teenage daughter wants $200 jeans, will you buy them? I asked her.
Sure, she said. If that’s what her friends are wearing and what will make her happy.
So as long as her friends are doing it, that’s what makes it acceptable?
Yes, she told me.
What if your 13-year-old daughter wants to get her bellybutton pierced?
That would be OK, she said. If her friends were doing it.
What if she wanted a tattoo?
Sure, if that’s what it would take to make her happy.
What if all her friends are sleeping around and she tells you she wants to go on the pill so she can have sex?
Hesitation. Well, now you’re talking about a health risk, Sophia said.
Not even a moral issue or “13 years old is way to young to have sex!”
Unfortunately, this was where our conversation was interrupted. I am dying to continue it.
The end of the line
2 years ago