posted Thu, 21 Jun 2007
Now you’re the pastor who is supposed to perform the wedding ceremony of the two 18-year-olds. Do you
1. Tell the kids that you don’t think it’s a good idea for them to get married because they are so young. Back up your assertion with divorce data and with your own anecdotes from marriage counseling.
2. Tell the kids your church requires six months of pre-marital counseling and the cooperation of the parents. (I don’t know of any church that requires parental cooperation, but if the parents – also members of that church -- are dead set against the marriage, I could see the pastor being somewhat conflicted.)
3. Say, “OK! I’ll perform this ceremony. I don’t care that you’ll have only a three-month engagement.”
The end of the line
11 months ago